Anual Day

September 10, 2007

On a whim, I attended our district  United Methodist Women’s Anual Day meeting yesterday in my hometown.  I’m not usually big on attending district functions.  They are usually really far away, and with the kids it’s difficult to carpool with anyone.  Also, I’m not really good at talking to strangers or making new friends, and these things are usually held on the weekends, which is the only time my husband and I can be together due to our work schedules.  However, I have a sneaking suspison that I am being primed to become our unit’s next president (officer elections are tonight), and eventually maybe even a district officer, so I thought it would be in my best interest to go and see what it was all about.  The hubby was sick, so we weren’t doing anything else, so I decided at the last minute to go, and knowing that childcare was provided, I took the youngest with me to give the boys a break from each other.

I arrived and was escorted to the nursery by a very kind lady from the host church.  My son took right up to playing with all the new toys, so I slipped out to the registration area, where refreshments were also provided.  The other members attending from my church were district officers, and were required to attend a meeting at this time, so I kind of felt out of place, not really knowing anyone else, and most of the other women being alot older than me. 

I can not begin to describe the blessings I recieved from the service.  The speaker, our conference president, was wonderful.  I also felt a sense of pride for our small unit, which has accomplished so much this year.  We recieved recognition for being a Platinum Unit, a Rainbow Unit, the UMW’s highest honors, and for our participation in the reading program.   

However, as interesting as it all was, I believe the hilight of my afternoon was being able to sit back and enjoy a service without my children.  That may sound selfish, but consider this:  I teach an average of 4 preschoolers in Sunday School each week, including my own, then I go to worship service, where I have my own 2 kids, and sometimes other people’s kids, crawling all over me throughout the hour.  Even when they are behaving, my mind is on things like, “how long will this last”.  I spend the service fetching books, crayons, toys and snacks from my monsterous diaper bag, and putting my hand over my kids mouths.  I don’t even bother cracking the hymn book anymore, as I know it’s pointless. 

Yesterday morning was particularly stressful, as my children were both in rather ornery moods, and could not be satisfied.  Additionally, during one of the songs I had to take the oldest outside for a spanking, with him screaming the whole way out the door, “Don’t whip me” repeatedly.  As you can imagine, I don’t get alot out of the service, and most weeks I wonder why I even came.  I don’t attend an adult Sunday School class either, so I feel like I never get spiritually refreshed.  Which is why UMW is so important to me.  It gives me the opportunity to be with other Christian Women, and at many of the functions, at least on the district level, they provide childcare, allowing my mind to focus on the meeting, not on crayons, fruit snacks, or spankings.

And, by separating the boys for those few short hours they got along alot better last night!  I guess we all just need a break from each other sometimes.


5 Responses to “Anual Day”

  1. Alyson,
    I remember those days and eventually I quit going. don’t be like me. I have found it even harder to go back even though my kids are more “manageable”

    I miss my kids when they go to their dad’s but I REALLY enjoy being able to do something/anything without having to yell at them to be quite, quit agruing, or etc…
    I have given up every listening to a song I really like in the car because they can never be quite long enough for me to hear!
    I gave up watching my favorite sitcoms because I always missed the end.
    As mothers, we give up alot of pleasures,so I don’t think it is wrong to enjoy a few now and then, PLUS it gives us a much needed “break from each other” and we play nicer. lol

    I was surprised to read this: “Also, I’m not really good at talking to strangers or making new friends”

    I usually feel awkward and uncertain. lol

  2. alyson Says:

    I hear alot of people say that they quit going to church when their kids were young, and I think it’s sad that more of our churches aren’t reaching out more to the young families and offering things like nurseries or childrens church.

    I know what you mean about the radio and tv. The Wiggles are currently in my cd player! I too, feel like I never see the end of tv shows. It’s really frustrating when it re-runs and I try to watch it, and J says, “We already saw this”. I’m like, “I only saw bits and pieces, let me watch it darn it”.

    I like meeting new people, espically in a group setting or something like that. I guess what I meant by that statement was in context to the event I was talking about. Everyone was already sitting at tables enjoying refreshments in their own church groups, and the room was almost full. Me being the only one from my group, I was in a situation where I felt like I would be invading their group. Kinda like the new kid’s first day at school.

  3. Brian Says:

    Our church has an excellent nursery and children’s church (once a month). We also have a short children’s message every Sunday close to the beginning of our main service. The kids are invited to come and sit on the steps to the stage, where an adult will give them a short message from the day’s scripture reading. They usually get some kind of toy or craft and go back to their seats smiling while the congregation sings “Jesus Loves The Little Children”. The ones who want to then go to the nursery or children’s church and our service continues as normal.

    Unfortunately, we have very few kids that go there. One young couple that joined recently has a small baby and just found out they’re pregnant again. There are a few older kids, but I wish we had more. At least we’re somewhat prepared for them!

  4. alyson Says:

    I love churches that have a childrens message, and the congregation singing the song sounds amazing.
    Some of our past pastors have done the Chirdrens Message thing, and I loved it. Unfortunately, the one now doesn’t do it, but I might suggest it. We have tried, multiple times to get a nursery started, but no one wants to sacrifice chruch service to do it. Some of the parents believe the kids should be in worship with them, not in another room. I respect that, but i0t’s still really frustruating.

  5. “It’s really frustrating when it re-runs and I try to watch it, and J says, “We already saw this”. I’m like, “I only saw bits and pieces, let me watch it darn it”.”-


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